KEEPING IT SEXY

Have you ever run into someone whose energy is such that they just ooze sexiness and it has absolutely nothing to do with how they look?   I’ve seen both men and women have that extra something that makes them that much more attractive.  Don’t get me started on a certain brand of cologne that drives me crazy.  It has been known to wake me up from a deep slumber.

Lately, I can’t say that I’ve been feeling my sexiest.  I used to be a pretty fit person.  However, after having a child in my mid-thirties and after nine years, I’m still using that excuse for not having lost ANY of the baby weight.   Now, if I’m honest with myself, I am overweight for my height and I do need to lose about 30-40lbs BUT that still shouldn’t take away my sexy.

That got me to thinking?  Do you feel sexy?  Just what is sexy?  What does sexy even mean?  The problem with that question and so many like them, is that sexy can mean any number of things to many different people.  For some, sexiness is directly connected to body image, for others it’s a frame of mind, and for others it may be something else entirely. 

That got me to thinking…maybe my SEXY was tied too closely to my outer appearance.   After reading the article in the Huffington Post – How Taking Nude Photos of Myself Helped Me Get Over My Body Issues, I realized that was EXACTLY the case. 

So, I’ve decided to take on this challenge.  I’m going to deal with my body issues (loving me in all of my glory) AND lose some weight; losing the weight is to get healthier not sexier.  Not only am I going to start taking nude photos of myself (on a Polaroid…hopefully THAT can't be hacked), but over the next 30 days I am also going to do twenty minutes a day of hardcore physical exercise while incorporating more water into my daily diet.  That’s it…nothing else for now. 

I’ll keep you posted on both my mental and physical progress.  My hope is some of you will join me.  We can tackle this common issue together while we encourage each other in the process. 

My first check-in will be Sept. 1, 2014!

LaShawn

LOVE, LIFE, and VOWS

This has been one interesting week!  Let me announce that I've just sent my copy of Love, Life, and Vows over to be edited.  Fingers crossed that we'll get a September 2014 release date.  

With that housekeeping out of the way, I've seen some very interesting commentary over this past week regarding the Ray and Janay Rice incident; thought I'd add my two cents.  For those of you who live on a planet far far away without any connection to the outside world, Ray Rice is a famous football player who until this week, played for the Baltimore Ravens.  He was cut for being caught on video in an elevator punching his then fiancé now wife, in the face so hard that she lay face down, on the floor for almost a minute or more...unconscious. I won't say he was cut by the NFL because they have a zero tolerance policy for domestic violence. But, I will say now that this has become public his 2 game suspensions for this horrific act was changed to a termination and being indefinitely suspended from the league.  However, his wife, Janay Rice, has decided to support and stand by her man. 

My opinion is simple.  Violence is NEVER okay for either a man or a woman.  Relationships are messy, love is messy and life can be so darn messy.  I understand Janay's need to want to protect the man she loves.  I WON'T judge her...that is a common symptom of being a battered woman.  Vows are meant to be kept...if possible.  But, I'm of a mind when a relationship becomes dangerous, when love becomes dangerous, and when your life is in danger...leave. It's sometimes easier said than done but do whatever you have to do, call whoever you have to call, run as fast as you can...but leave.

Do you think vows are the ties the bind?  Speak on it!